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Being A Winner or A Loser Is a Matter of Words.

What words do you use when you speak to yourself or to others about yourself? The words you say reveal whether you are a winner or a loser. They reflect your state of mind where success is concerned.

In this post I am helping you to change your vocabulary from that of a loser to that of a winner. After reading this you will be aware of these words and what they mean for your success. Stop yourself and regroup your thoughts whenever you find yourself thinking or saying them. Avoid these words like a plague both in self-talk and in public talk.

Here they are:


By saying you are overwhelmed, what you are actually saying is this:

“I know there is a lot that I must figure out, learn and do, but I am not willing to do it.”

Agree with me or not, that is what you are saying and that means you are in loser thinking mode. You see, losers do not take the time to break down goals into micro-tasks that can be done one at a time. As a result, they become overwhelmed. The onerous task of doing everything at once is impossible. Your mind will resist doing what is impossible. Clarity of thought about what must be done will enable you to map out the sequence of steps that will get you to your success destination. What are you to do when the feeling of overwhelm comes upon you? Pause, stand back and ask yourself:

“What are the little steps that will lead to completion of this task?”

You counter overwhelm by realizing that there is a lot to do but I can do it one step at a time. Successful people never feel overwhelmed because for every goal that they set, they clarify the action steps needed and the order of doing them. Daily, they set out to do those steps until the goal is achieved.


Confusion results from a lack of clarity about what you want. Do not want it all at the same time. Successful People know that there is a time and a season for everything. Seasons of life are set by your priorities. Do you have a priority list of the things that you want to achieve? You cannot be all things to all people at all times. Do things in order of the priority that they have, and you will never feel confused. Clarify what you want now. Identify the action that is needed to accomplish what you want. Do the actions. You will never be confused again.


Frustration results from losing focus of where you are going, and focusing on where you are. In your thinking, talk and doing, be laser focused on where you are going. Do not allow current circumstances to destruct you from your target. Imagine if you were an archer shooting at a target. The only way you can hit the bulls’ eye is if you are laser focused on setting the arrow to hit it. Be present. Be involved. Be in the act. Whatever the outcome of this step, focus on the next action needed to correct the mistake and move you closer to your goals. Stay focused on what you want and where you want to go.


Winners do not dwell on disappointment, so they do not articulate it. They know that you win some, you lose some. They do all that they can to win. When they do not win that battle, they focus on making adjustments to win the war. Losers on the other hand suffer from entitlement. Disappointment is a way of expressing that entitlement. Entitlement says I deserve to win ALL the time. That does not leave room for things not working out as planned. When that happens to a loser, they cannot master the capacity to regroup and plan a new strategy.

Does this sound too harsh? It is the truth.

Am I saying winners never feel overwhelmed, confused, frustrated or disappointed? No! They do experience that. Their upper hand in the whole situation is that they have no time to dwell on that. They do not say those words even when they are true. A winner realizes their situation and then looks for a solution. The habit of expressing those four words is called ‘complaining” or “whining”. That is the pastime of sympathy seekers. Such people want you to understand why they have not achieved their goals. It is their way of being comfortable with being under-achievers.

Once I understood the true meaning of these four words, I stopped using them. Whenever I find myself thinking them, I stop myself. I regroup my thoughts and adopt the winner mentality.

When overwhelmed I plan.

When confused I prioritize.

When frustrated I revisit my purpose.

When disappointed I regroup and strategize.

The Shield

  1. Misery loves company. Examine the people who surround you. If your crowd’s pastime is whining to each other, change company if you want a winning mentality.
  2. Eliminate these words from your vocabulary. When you stop using them you will get the attention of the people whose company will support your winner attitude. Gradually, you will surround yourself with more and more winners.
  3. You do not need everything all at the same time. Be focused. Take out of life what you want.
  4. Once you have identified the action needed to get what you want, do the action consistently. Results come from action.

Pretty soon you will be unrecognisable.

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Consistent Activity is the Vaccine Against Failure

Consistent activity births phenomenal success. We are definitely stepping up the action and activity on this blog. We trust that the value will continue to increase and your participation as well. What is stopping you from being consistent in the activities that should bring your success?

Are you afraid of failing? Do not fear failure but embrace it. Obviously when we start out

Don’t stop

with something new, we want to succeed. So, plan and act with success in mind. We all know that there are detours along the way. You will have planned what ever it is you are planning to achieve but things happen. When you fail or when you meet an obstacle don’t lose hope and don’t be afraid to start anything. Because, if you are not failing at something you probably are not doing anything.

That is exactly what it means for most of us. So, if you are doing something, and you are out there in the field and you are running and chasing after the ball; you are going to fall, you are going to be tripped by other players. Maybe the ball will come your way and you will miss it. Instead of kicking it, you will kick the air. All those things happen to us but quit being a spectator, start being a doer. When you become a doer, and take action definitely you are going to become stronger. You are going to grow even more effective in what ever it is you are doing.

When you fall, should you fall, regroup very quickly. Do not throw a pity party. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and just realign yourself. Just look at what it is you are supposed to be doing in order for things to be better.

How The Past Fits In

Look at how cars are designed. The rear-view mirror is smaller than the windscreen that is in front. What is the reason for that? Because the rear-view mirror is for looking backwards. So, the reason why you have to look backwards at that
smallest of levels is because you are supposed to be looking forward at where you are going not at what has happened in the past. You cannot change the past but you can learn from it. So, learn from what ever has happened to you and then pick yourself up and keep moving forward. If it means adjusting, then make the necessary adjustments. Stay consistent and true to the goals that you aspire to achieve.

Hopefully this message is going to help you in what ever it is that you are doing, especially if you are in business. Definitely in business the hiccups are going to be there. Challenges are going to be there, obstacles are going to be there. But if you give up with every obstacle that you meet it will be a very painful journey for you. Keep going. Keep regrouping. Be consistent and you will get better with each attempt.

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You can also drop me your email address as well. Thank you so much for this time we have spent together so far. It is a privilege and an honor to be able to communicate
with you at this level. God bless you and have a beautiful day.


Nomusa Mhlanga 315-copy-412x540-320x420-150x150Nomusa is a good wife of one and a loving mother of four sons. A professional water resources consultant with a Masters degree in Water Resources Engineering and Management, she has mastered the art of mindset shifting and integrating her conventional professional training with becoming a successful God praising network marketing business owner.


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Plan To Win in 2018

Year 2018 Ahead..

Plan time! So, here we are. We are going to be talking about the coming year, 2018. Are you going to roll the dice in 2018 or are you going to map out a path and map out a plan you are going to follow?

I have a very special invitation for you at the end. So stay with me until the end because that special invitation is going to help you. It is going to show you how we are going to work together in putting up a plan that you can execute in 2018, as opposed to rolling the dice and leaving everything to chance in terms of how your year is going to turn out,

It’s the end of year. If I recall from my days when I was in formal employment, it’s that time of year when many people who are watching this that are in full-time employment are going through the strategic plan session for their work at their work. Sadly, very few people take time out to make a strategic plan for their own lives. So we are talking about that today because each one of us wherever we are in our sphere’s we are leaders. Being a leader where you are in life, you need to know where you are going so you can lead those who are following you. The best way of leading is to lead yourself first before leading others. The only way you can lead yourself is if you have got a strategy in place.

You must take the time out to plan and set your goals for the year. How do you set those goals for yourself? What is the process to go through in order for you to have your strategic planning? You need to set out your long-term plans as well as your short-term plans. What are you planning for the immediate future? What are you planning for the long-term future?

Can an individual have a 3 to 5-year plan of action? I believe so because each one of us in our own right are entities and we are organisations. Whether we like it or not our families are organisations that need to have a strategic direction that they are going in. I was just reading for the second time now the book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and it italks a lot at the beginning about starting with the end in mind, mapping and putting up a vision of where you want to go. Not only in organisations, as in corporates; but also organisations as in families.

Families should have strategic vision statements that they live by. As individuals each person is supposed to have their own strategic plan as well. Alright? So how do you get started with that?

What is important is that you understand the immediate things that you must do for you to get to the long-term goals. But where is the starting point? Do I start here or do I start there? What’s important is to start there in the future and then come backwards looking at the different milestones you have to reach in order for you to be able to fulfill that long-term plan. Start with your 3 to 5-year plan or vision of where you see yourself in the next 3-5 years? Then keep bringing it closer to your medium-term goals, then to your short-term goals, and to your daily action plan. So, that is what I have been doing for myself leading up to the end of this year.

You also need to know the areas of life to plan for. It is very important to dstinguish clearly the different areas of life that you want to plan for. Let’s break down what I consider to be the important areas to plan for:

Your Spiritual Health

Area number one you should be planning for is your spirituality. How do you plan to enhance and where do you see yourself spiritually? How are you planning to grow yourself spiritually? What are the daily activities that you are going to be doing? Start with where you want to see yourself. Most religions believe in an after-life. You plan for that after-life in this life. It would be tough to plan for the huge chunk called eternity, so it’s best to do it on a year-by-year basis.

Your Physical Health

Your health is your wealth. You can have all the material things in life. if you do not have your physical health in good stead, you might not enjoy the stuff.

Make a Social/Relatinships Health Plan

There are different kinds of relationships to plan for. There are family relationships. How do they fit in? How are you going to manage your family relationships in view of everything else that you are going to be doing. Plan for the quality time needed to spend with your family. There is also the relationship with your community and church as well. Do not forget to plan for that.

Your Career/Business/Finances

I’ll bundle these three into one because they all culminate in the financial outcomes or the financial outputs that you want . Map out your career path. Your business is your career right! It depends whether you are in employment or running your own business. That’s your career path, so you also need to plan for that.

Action and Execution

After setting your objectives in each important area of your life, you must put together a plan of execution. What will you do in order to make sure that you realize your goals. For example, in terms of your finances, what savings plans are you putting in place? How about investment plans? If you are in debt, you have to map how you are going to clear your debt. Let 2018 be the year that you become debt-free. You need to consciously prepare for that. What about things that you want to buy for your family? What about vacationing? What destinations will you visit? How much do you want to give to your community timewise as well as materially? All that will intergrate into your business and financial startegy.


How you prioritize each area will be shown by the extent to which you will commit time, financial and material resources. Your action plan is definitely going to respond to as well as indicate the areas of priority for your goals in 2018. What is important to remember is that no area should be neglected.

You Are Invited

Do you want to dig deeper into your plan for the coming year. Are you interested in coming up with a blueprint startegy for where you want to be and what to have by December 2018? If you are, you must register for a FREE webinar that I will be doing on Tuesday 19th December 2018 at 9:00PM CAT (Central Africa Time, Harare/Johannesburg time).

I will give you a step-by-step guide into planning for an epic 2018. Register for the FREE “Plan for an Epic 2018 webinar by clicking HERE! See you on the inside.

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Struggling with achieving your goals?

Focus on your activities to meet your goals!

The subject of our discussion today is not only for network marketers, but for people all over. The principle I am sharing with you here applies across the board, whether you’re in Network Marketing, or what ever it is that you do for a living.

How do you achieve your goals?

How do you make sure you achieve your goals? Because many people set goals but they don’t achieve them. We are moving towards the end of the year right now. The beginning of the year is coming. People are going to set their goals for the coming year. New years resolutions will be set. By the time we get to February most people have lost focus on what it is they said they were going to do that year. So, I’d like to help you to figure out a way that can help or that can enhance the rate at which you achieve your goals.

So, the first thing you have to do of course is to set the goal. Once you set the goal break it down to what is it that needs to be done. What do you need to do in order to achiever this goal? Talking to network marketers: For example, if your goal is to acquire six new customers during a calendar month or what ever period it is, don’t focus on the number six in terms of how many customers you want to achieve. Rather, look at your conversion statistics. For example: if you are out there in the field working you will know. If I show on average 10 people then 2 people will enroll as customers. So how then are you going to focus on your activities. What it means is that you are going to have to show 30 customers in order for you to enroll 6 customers by the end of the month. So, you are now going to focus on ‘How do I break down this 30?’ Right! There are 30 days in a month, am I going to show one person a day? Or you can also look at it from the perspective that there are 4 weeks in a month. In each week how many people am I supposed to show in order to get those averages working in my favour?

So, focus on the activities, and when you have set the numbers you are supposed to achieve for a day go for those numbers.

“Activity drives goals and results”

Because if you do not do what you are supposed to do to get the goal, definitely it’s not going to work out for you. So, consistency in terms of activity is what is going to get you the results. And what I love about it is that once you are out in the field and actually doing the work, when you are consistent and consistently being active in what you are supposed to do, which is sharing your concept or sharing the opportunity with the people that you are meeting, you are going to get better and better in terms of skills. How to present and how to close at the end of the presentation. Your skills develop by being in the field. So can you see that activity is actually what determines weather or not you are going to reach your goals? Focus on your activities. Establish what it is you need to do. Put the numbers down so that you can be able to track whether you are actually fulfilling what you are supposed to do.

You’ve got to understand that when you are sharing a concept with someone you have no control over the outcome. You have no control over what is going to happen in terms of their decision. But what is important is that you have shown it to them. I urge you to focus on your activities this week. Ther are two days, three days before the end of the week? So, if you intensify your activity and start the next week with clearly defined and precise activities that you are going to do, ou might have a week you have never had before in your business

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Nomusa Mhlanga 315-copy-412x540-320x420-150x150Nomusa is a good wife of one and a loving mother of four sons. A professional water resources consultant with a Masters degree in Water Resources Engineering and Management, she has mastered the art of mindset shifting and integrating her conventional professional training with becoming a successful God praising network marketing business owner.


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Enjoy Your Journey To Success

Today I just want to talk about how you can enjoy your journey to success. I’m sure you’re here because you want to achieve great things in your home-based business. Sometimes the pressure of wanting to achieve can rob us of the joy we should be having as we go along, as we travel this amazing journey to financial freedom. Don’t rob yourself of the joy you can have, because a lot of people do that.

How can you avoid robbing yourself of the joy that you can have as you travel along the way to the level of success you are looking for?

  1. AVOID COMPARING YOURSELF – Don’t suffer from a disease called ‘comparitis’ where you are comparing yourself to say, “So and so came into the business and in six weeks they have achieved so much.” Or to say, “So and so was able to bring in so many customers in such a short time.” At the end of the day comparison is a thief. It robs you of the ability to experience your own journey. Each one of us are on our own individual journeys. If you allow that journey to take its course, if you allow yourself to go through the process of personal development that is neede you will become great. Comparison robs you of the important things you need to experience for you to get to your destination. Each and every one of us has our own individual and personal journey to success.
  2. WHILE YOU ARE WHERE YOU ARE, APPRECIATE AND ENJOY THE PLACE WHERE YOU ARE – Express gratitude to your family. Express gratitude to God for putting you where you are right now as you are aspiring for more, because sometimes the aspiration for more puts so much pressure and stress on us such that we do not enjoy where we are. So, take away that pressure from yourself, embrace where you are, enjoy it, celebrate it, while you are aspiring to achieve more.
  3. ALOW THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT TO TAKE PLACE – It’s a huge process of going to where you are supposed to go. You are being prepared for great things, and nothing great will come to an ordinary person. So, for you to get there you have to get through the school, and the school is the field where you are and the experiences you are going through.
  4. TRUST IN A HIGHER POWER/THE HIGHER POWER – There is a God out there. What ever you perceive Him to be there is a God who is conspiring for our success. And believe that that is true because sometimes there are things that will happen in your life that you may not be able to explain, that you do not understand. Leave that in His hands and do what is humanly possible for you. That will give you peace of mind and joy as you go on this journey.
  5. REMEMBER IT’S MUCH MORE THAN JUST THE RANKS – It’s not only about weather you hit the next rank. It is important to do that, I am not undermining that at all, but at the end of the day it’s about the journey to success you are taking. Allow the story of your life to develop. Build your story because that story will inspire somebody who will be walking on a similar journey with the one you are on. Build your leadership skills and allow yourself to develop there. Allow yourself to develop as a leader who leads others who are aspiring to achieve the same things. Be a good parent and never neglect your family. Get them to understand who you are and get them to participate in the process of where you are going. Be a better spouse, be a better member of the community as you are going along the route or path towards your destination. There are times where you have to push and sacrifice, yes, but at the end of the day keep your humanness. Don’t chase the dollar beyond what is most important at the end of the day. The fundamentals of success are about relationships, because when you build strong relationships and are more focused on that you will realise that the money is going to follow even without you making too much effort.

I would like to invite you to be part of my blog community at www.nomusaathome.com. Subscribeand stay in contact with me on a regular basis and we can always share how we can enhance one another’s performance along the journey to success in network marketing. Have a blessed day and God bless you.

Watch the video below and hear the mportance of taking your joy with you on your journey to success.

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Nomusa Mhlanga 315-copy-412x540-320x420-150x150Nomusa is a good wife of one and a loving mother of four sons. A professional water resources consultant with a Masters degree in Water Resources Engineering and Management, she has mastered the art of mindset shifting and integrating her conventional professional training with becoming a successful God praising network marketing business owner.


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