My Mom Expresses Gratitude to a Decision I Made Nearly Two Years Ago!

  • My Mom Expresses Gratitude to a Decision I Made Nearly Two Years Ago!

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2013 has been a year of transformation for me and my family; thanks to a decision I took on October 17, 2011. We have traveled more together as a family this year than we have done since we became a family,  and we have more trips in and out of Zimbabwe in the pipeline before the year is over.

In May we took our sons on a week end trip to the Eastern Highlands of Zimbabwe, in July we spent a week end at the Hilton Hotel in Sandton, Johannesburg and at the end of August I took a week-long trip to Durban in South Africa with my five year old son and my mom to celebrate my mom’s 69th birthday.

We have planned a week end trip to Kariba in Zimbabwe for our sons to unwind from exam pressure as soon as schools close in December. On the same week end my husband and I will travel for a week to Thailand to attend a training event and vacation there.

As a family we are already looking at possible trips to take overseas together in 2014. Two years ago if you had told me I would be having this kind of conversation with my family, I would have wondered what you had been smoking because our budget was so tight there was a lot of month left at the end of the money. Yet I had what would be considered a great job by any standards at the time.

What got this whole thing started was an opportunity I had seen in 2009 which my heart  believed could work but my head refused to accept as possible. Two years later, faced with an expiring employment contract and closed doors at every turn for a new job, I went back to give that opportunity a second look. My heart was still in the right place and my head had tried to catch up a little bit. The whole thing made more sense, probably because it was the only available alternative I had.

I decided to invest the less than $400 that was needed for me to get started in the business venture. I also invested $199 to attend a company training event in Johannesburg two weeks after I got started. After that training, my head had truly caught up with my heart. I knew then in my head what I needed to do in order for me to get that which my heart had fallen in love with.

The journey has not been easy. I have had to break out of my comfort zone and do things that I have never done before. More than the money that I have started to make and the traveling that I am now enjoying, the self discovery journey that I have been on and which still continues has been the best part that I have enjoyed.

My business opportunity is in the network marketing industry. This industry is not for wimps but it is for men and women of courage who are willing to take the most difficult journey a human being can ever take, the journey of changing yourself in order to succeed financially and get for your family what you have always dreamed they could get.

If on that fateful day in October 2011 I had not made the decision to give a second look at an idea that made sense only to my heart and not my head; if I had not started that facebook chat with a wonderful Zimbabwean lady I had met earlier whom I knew was doing this business (I was working in Botswana at the time); if I had said to myself I have never done network marketing before and what if I fail and loose my money? If I had listened to all the people I loved, and who loved me, who told me about the graveyard of network marketing where casualties and disasters of all sorts had befallen those who tried it, I never would have known the joy that I saw on my mom’s face when she saw the ocean for the first time in her life. That embrace that she gave me said it all.

The journey of the last two years has been worth every frustration and every ridiculous response that I have heard from those who have not seen what I see in this opportunity.

The journey is just beginning. I do not know how much time I or my loved ones have to live here on earth, but I can tell you that with each day that we have we are going to create memories together at the places that we would only have dreamed about had I not made the decision to be a crazy nut nearly two years ago.

I leave you with a video that I recorded of my mom appreciating me on the shorelines of the Indian Ocean in Durban in August 2013.

I give glory to God for the vision He gave me that has afforded me the chance to do this for my mom in her living years. How I wish these fruits had crystallized earlier and I’d have done this with my dad as well. sadly, he passed away in August 2012.

If you have been inspired to take a closer look at network marketing as your Plan B in securing your family’s financial future, then send me this message “Let’s talk about what you are doing.” on facebook at THIS LINK OR invite me to be your friend on Skype (madlala2010) with the same message.

“It is better to have a Plan B and not need it, than to need it and not have it.” – WISDOM

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Nomusa Mhlanga

Nomusa Mhlanga


Stay at Home/Work from Home Plus The Art and Skill of Decision Making

Working from Home

Thank you very much to the dear friends who believe in the path that I am charting for me and my family. It is a major decision but it’s not as earth shuttering as some felt it was.

Judging by the responses I got to my article about me becoming a stay-at-home mom, it looks like some who commented by sending me private messages had a problem with the term ‘stay-at-home’. Somehow it conveyed to them that I was going to turn into this idle empty-headed woman with enough time on her hands to be gossiping and just waiting for my husband to do everything

That is definitely not the case. And just to indulge them, we shall change my title to ‘work-from-home’ mom. I hope it now comes across that I will still be doing work but the only difference is that it will be done from my home, on my schedule, at my pace.

That settled, we can get on with today’s subject: The Art and Skill of Decision Making

1. Ask Yourself “What Impact Will this Decision Have in the Medium to Long-Term?”

Keeping things in perspective is a wise thing to do. Some decisions have an impact only for the immediate term and we need not stress that much over them. If you find yourself taking too long to decide what to eat for lunch, then there’s a problem. Deep fried Kentucky chicken and some chips for lunch today is no problem unless I find myself having that several times a week, every week. Ask yourself how your decision will affect yours and other people’s happiness in say, five years. If it has a long-term impact, then take time and think through the decision. If it only affects the here and now, do not waste time, decide. A lot of people waste time majoring on minors!

2. Check How Your Decision Fits Into Your Goals

Unless you have a clear picture of what you want your life to look like five years, ten years from today, this technique will not be easy to do. If as mentioned above, the decision has a long term impact, the next step is to check it against the back drop of your plans for your future. If the decision does not align with where you envision yourself being in several years, then throw it out. Here the assumption is that you know where you want to be in several years.

3. What Does Your Gut Tell You?

We are all blessed with intuition or that gut feeling. Take the time to be still and think. A lot of stuff looks good on paper but somehow when you search deep into your soul you may find that there is a better option. The Spirit, in my case as a Christian, the Holy Spirit, communicates with us when we seek His guidance. Deep in the soul He reveals the right path to take. Have some me time out of your busy schedule to meditate in silence over your decision. The true path to take is revealed through a peace that transcends any visible obstacles or challenges.

4. Be Patient

Let’s be clear here that as long as the queasy feeling inside is not because of your fear of change; then it is good to wait a while. If the internal peace does not come immediately, wait it out. Let time answer the questions for you. Sometimes God will be seeing that you need to understand a few more things before you make that final commitment. Regarding my decision to be a work from home mom, the desire had been there even while I was still employed. It wasn’t until two days ago during my morning devotion that it dawned on me that I had wasted 12months of my life waiting to exhale the deep breath I took when I lost my last job. After tens of job applications, it became so clear to me that that distant drum was the new tune I was now to march to.

5. Ask Someone Else

Usually decisions are made when solutions to serious problems are being sought. No matter how smart we are; an extra pair of eyes and ears will see what we in our narrow vision of a current crisis might not see. Seek the advice of trusted friends, family or a mentor for a different point of view if you are still not happy with yours.

Consult a Friend

Once again, thanks for the positive input of those who commented on facebook. Your points of view will definitely contribute to the immediate and long term actions I will take on this new journey.

Bless and be blessed!