Who Has Dominion Over You

ego busterThe first thing to do is obviously to define what dominion is. Dominion is to have control over, to domineer. It is a word that is found in the Bible because humans were given the right to have dominion. So we need to understand the kind of dominion that humans were given in order for it to be used properly.

Firstly let me make something clear from the onset. Humans were given dominion over animals and plants and not over other humans. Animals do not have the power to reason. They mainly operate using natural instinct. That is why humans who have the power to reason and rationalize were given the right to rule over the animals and make decisions on their behalf.

When it comes to humans however, no matter how old or young or what sex an individual is, no one has the right to domineer over the other. We can only reason with each other and none is compelled to accept the other person’s opinion.

To progress and meet your aspirations as an individual, you should never allow another person to have dominion over you. Only God should have dominion over you because He is all knowing and He created you and understands you more that you will even ever understand yourself.

With the above statement am I saying that other people cannot play a role in influencing your life for success. Definitely not. There is plenty of room for others to be a part of your success through their influence. Influence is different from dominion.

Influence shows you how success is achieved by the person being a good example of what you aspire to achieve. Dominion on the other hand dictates to you the path and demands that you walk in it. Humans being the imperfect creatures that they are do not have the prerogative to dictate anything to each other. They can only guide, give advice and lead by example as proof that their philosophy works.

Usually dictators want others to do what they prescribe while they themselves do not do or live by that prescription. Influencers (another name for leaders) live what they preach. Their credibility stems from that trait of saying what they do, and doing what they say.

So the question comes back again. Who are you allowing to have dominion over you? When you aspire to do things that you have never been done before or which most people have never done before such as becoming an entrepreneur who are you allowing to dictate to you what can or cannot be done.

There are three classes of dictators that I have met in my career as an entrepreneur.

1. The I Cannot Do It so Neither Can You Group
These people look at what you are getting started with, they look at themselves and declare to themselves that it is impossible to achieve success. Instead of keeping their opinions to themselves, they want you to buy their story. They will do all in their power to remind you at every turn that you are crazy and that you will fail. What drives them is their own fear and they want you to be just as fearful and quit what you have started.

2. The Do Not Disrupt the Status Quo Group
This group of dictators is very interesting. They are afraid that you are going to succeed and then expose them for what they are, fearful people (I reserved the use of the C word here ). By breaking away and becoming a successful entrepreneur, your success becomes a reprimand to them for not breaking out as well. In a pretext to protect you from yourself, they look up every failure case in entrepreneurship or whatever new venture you are embarking on that they can find in real life or from the internet and they will spread it before you as proof. The objective is to paralyze you with fear until you quit.

3. The Haters
These are people who just do not wish you any good. They spend most of their energy devising and carrying out PHD (Pull Him/Her Down) missions. They will secretly and openly plot your downfall. They thrive on making other people feel inferior through negative talk and gossip. They are just busy bodies who feel happy from popping other people’s balloons. They want the gloom that they spread to poison you into paralysis.

I felt my body tense up just writing about these people. I am sure you have met others who belong to other categories but the above three are the most common.

My advice to you is never allow the toxicity of negative talk and fear to have dominion over you. The last time I read my Good Book on how to make a living, it stated that we are to labor and do all our work. Nowhere did I see a prescription of what kind of work is to be done. The only admonition given in how we work is that there be no exploitation of man by man. Fairness and equity are to be the guiding principles that we live by.

It is an individual’s choice whether they earn their living working a job or being an entrepreneur. I am offended when a budding entrepreneur is told to stay where they are and do what has always been done.

Are there risks involved in entrepreneurship? Yes. Is it tough becoming a successful entrepreneur? Yes. But the bottom line is: they must leave you be. You should be free to go through the growth process of becoming a successful entrepreneur in order to become one.

So, since you clearly have the entrepreneurial bug (you would not be reading this if you did not), brace yourself up for the opposing current. Be upright and true in all your dealings. Help others along the way. Work with Godliness. Take good advice from your mentors and never, ever let anyone have dominion over you.

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Raise Your Level of Influence with Prospects

How To Raise Your Level of Influence with Prospects

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In the last post we talked about the importance of converting prospect to customers as the most important skill that one needs to have to be a successful home business owner.

Today we expand and explain the X-factor that will make you an ace converter. What is the magic sauce that will make people do what you want them to do that is good for them. People who are true leaders have this X-factor because if they did not have it, they would have no followers. That secret source is called influence.

Are the alarm bells going off at the mention of influence? Your mind probably equates influence with manipulation. Influence is very different from manipulation. I looked up a psychology article on the difference between influence and manipulation and came up with the following.

Influence: A process of getting someone else to want to do, react, think or believe the way you want them to.

Manipulation: Exerting a devious influence over a person for your own advantage

The line is very thin but influence comes across as more positive and without sinister motives other than causing someone to voluntarily see for themselves that making a certain choice or stand is good for them.

My assumption is that your product is good and you believe that it can make revolutionary positive changes for the people who buy it. Now how do you make them see that for themselves? You must overcome five common enemies of influence in your prospects. I am now going to look at each barrier to influence and what you need to do to overcome them.

The Barriers To Influence, Their Polar Opposites and How To Move Prospects From Being Closed to Being Open


A skeptical person does not believe that what you are telling them is true. Ever heard the phrase ‘seeing is believing’? The antidote is to turn a skeptic into a believer. HOW? Show them results. Use the product and build your story to let them see what your product can do. While you are building your story, show them those who went before you to use the product and have a story to tell. Seeing is believing. Anyone who still does not believe after seeing, leave them alone.


Many people though unhappy with where they are, are too lazy to do anything about it. As you qualify them for your product, dig for the pain that is deep inside. Bring it to the surface and offer them a solution. That solution of course should be your product.


What if there are so many alternatives that they can use to get the same benefit. Identify the unique proposition within your product and help them to see it as the only and unique solution to solve their problem.


Your opportunity or product could be opening up horizons that are so big that your prospect becomes lost in the possibilities. Give them clarity. Show them how you will be there by their side to show them how to take things one step at a time. Break things down to bite sizes that they can manage to take in.


The antidote for fear is wanting something bad enough that you will overcome all obstacles. Expose the desire that is buried within your prospect to want what you product or opportunity has to offer

Your task as a marketer is to remove those barriers and move your prospect from being closed to being open to take up your product or opportunity.

A condensation of the principle at play in turning prospects to customers can be summarized in the following sentence: People will do anything for those who are their allies, that is those who encourage their dreams, justify their failures, allay their fears, confirm their suspicions and help them throw stones at their enemies. Be the ally and watch your sales sky rocket.

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I help working moms and dads succeed in network marketing by showing them how to have the right mindset for success and teaching them online and offline marketing skills to build residual incomes and retire when they want.
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