Fear can rule you. Fear is powerful and fear is real. To achieve your goals you must overcome fear.
I define fear as the gap between what you know you must do and the action of actually doing it. You know what you want out of life. You have had opportunity to learn what you must do for you to get what you want. BUT…. (play some spooky music in your head hahaha!)….. you are afraid to step out and do what needs to be done. Fear is the opposite of courage!
To show you why you must face up to and deal with your fears, let me show you what fear does:
- It stifles your thinking. Your mind just shuts off and sees no possibilities around any situation.
- Fear paralyzes you. You end up doing nothing.
- Fear leads to lost opportunities due to procrastination. It takes you too long to make decisions to act on opportunities.
- It causes you to do nothing for fear of failing.
- You end up losing confidence in yourself and eventually can self destruct.
There are two positive outcomes that result once you teach yourself to overcome fear.
When You Overcome Fear You Get Your Power Back
As long as you let fear rule you, you become a victim in your head. The victim mentality emanates from being afraid to take the bull by the horns for your own rescue. Always when you face a challenge, acknowledge that danger is real, but fear is a choice. YOU choose to be brave, stand and take action or walk away with your tail between your legs.
What are the dangers of taking action? Possible failure and the consequent loss of respect from friends and family. But you know what? That boils down to you worrying about what people will think should you fail as opposed to you being driven by the possibility of your success. Get back your power. Be driven by your vision to take action instead of cowering to the fear of being laughed at should you fail. “What if it works” must be the fuel in your mental engine.
Conquering your fears is the most powerful thing that you can do.
“The fear of becoming a ‘has-been’ keeps some people from becoming anything.” – Eric Hoffer
To Overcome Fear Empowers Others To Conquer Their Own Fears
Always remember that when you take action, people watch what you do. Now that should not scare you. It should inspire you to be your best. When you relentlessly pursue your dreams/goals and overcome fear until you succeed, it inspires the spectators in your life to follow in your footsteps. You show them what is possible and they get the oomph to take action themselves. Guess what? That makes you a leader. Leadership is not ordered or commanded. It is earned. You earn leadership if you conquer your fears.
If the general world populace does not inspire you to overcome fear and become a leader, if you are a parent, remember your children are watching you. Their first and strongest lessons at how to deal with adversity come from you. I rest my case!
“One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.” – Albert Schweitzer
So what is it that you want to do deep down in your heart? Is it to:
- Fire your boss and live life on your terms?
- Be a stay-at-home mom and raise your own children?
- Be financially free to pursue your passion and fund the causes that matter to you?
- ……………………………………………? Fill the gap.
There is action that you need to take for that dream to become a reality. What is stopping you from doing it? Are you letting fear make the decision for you?
Do what you fear the most and the death of fear will be certain.
I will leave you with quotes from three notable individuals who overcame fear and made a difference not only in their own lives but touched many other lives too.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela
“I know fear is an obstacle for some people, but it is an illusion to me. Failure always made me try harder next time.” – Michael Jordan
“He who overcomes fear will truly be free.” – Aristotle
Nomusa is a loving mother of four sons. A professional water resources consultant with a Masters degree in Water Resources Engineering and Management, she has mastered the art of mindset shifting and integrating her conventional professional training with becoming a successful God praising network marketing business owner.
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